Well, I have finally joined the other side! I have taken that final step towards being relaxer free after a year’s transition! The feeling is invigorating yet emotional, and is definitely something that takes some getting used to. After being relaxed for twenty years give or take a few, I had become so accustomed to my straight tresses, so much so that each time I look in the mirror now, I have to do a double take. Is that really you, Dena?
I don’t fall into the category of ladies that felt no difference after the BC, or that didn’t give it a second thought. It actually took some getting used to for me in that it was not a decision that came easy, neither were the effects of it. I even felt a little apprehensive about going out in public..” Will people even recognize me? How will I manage without being able to pull back into a pony on a bad hair day? How long will it take for my hair to gain some length??”
Well just to keep it real with everyone, while my decision was not an easy one, I am slowly adjusting and learning to embrace the new me…the me with the kinky curls and twists. The me with the full and voluminous crown. The me with the wavy strands that stand out instead of lying down. And guess what…I am not disappointed one bit. I have no regrets!
I remember walking into Sally’s shopping around for some hair goodies, and two workers there admired my new do as they inquired about the way I was able to get and I quote “that natural look”. I had to giggle at that one…”that natural look” It has been interesting to say the least to observe some of the looks, hear the remarks, and realize the difference it makes in my own mindset about hair.
All in all, I am ready to learn more and more about my very own hair and texture. I am inclined to say that I want to throw out all of my preconceived notions about hair and the hair game, however that would be so unfair to me. I am learning that I can take what I have learned about hair in general and apply it to my new journey, and add to and take from as needed as I embark upon my new adventures in hair. I am glad that I realize that transitioning hair is quite different from natural hair, and it’s like learning it all anew.
Keep in mind, these experiences are unique to me, and each individual’s hair presents it’s very own set of issues as well as assets. I personally believe that through the knowledge of one’s own hair and proper hair care, each person can truly enjoy their own special hair texture. But that takes a conscious effort on your part not to compare your texture,length, and look to anyone else.
Time for me to embrace my strands and get to learning and experimenting, and I invite you to explore, learn, and grow with me!!
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